HELLO 2014!

(What’s Love Got to do with it with Ruth Chigubu)

 How many of us are determined to do things better this New Year? Lose the weight, stop drinking, improve the bottom line at work? I know I do.We have made a list of our New Year’s Resolutions and sisters I hope you have given more thought  and analysis to your list and that you have a basis for your objectives for the coming year. I sure hope you have given love priority.  You have resolved to love more, love harder still. I sure hope in as much as you have strategic plans for your business, work, family you have remembered to plan strategically for your love. We all need love. I am hoping you have taken time alone to review and strategically plan for your relationship this 2014.

It is essential to reflect back and understand the way your relationship is. Where you have come from, where you are now and where you intend to go? What works, what did not and areas for improvement. Does your partner still share the vision? Still want to achieve the same objective? Most importantly, does love still live there anymore?

We often tend to put more energy into losing the calories gained over the festive season, promise to not drink so much, we resolve to work harder so can provide for the family but take a moment to think: what promises have we made to love? Is this where we need to take stock of how we are loving this New Year. What I know is strategy + effort=results.

Do we have a strategic plan on how to love better and more this 2014, are we willing to put in the effort in order to get the desired results or we are willing to leave love to chance? Or are taking it for granted
“Cherozvazvaita” usually does not work. In as much as we put effort to losing the weight, effort is also needed to make love work and grow to another level and it takes two to tango so get on the programme with your relevant other.

We need a strategy on how we are loving, who we are loving and why. What needs to change, how and why.  It is also a time to review and see if the love you have is what you need. Is it the right love for you? Does it serve the purpose?  If so, happy loving to you. If not, how come not and what do you do about it but do something you must. Good luck to you…

When the right love is in place you are fuelled to get on with 2014. You are motivated and inspired. But after all is said and done, girl, do not forget self-love. Yaa right! You need to love and appreciate yourself.
All the best to good loving and achieving your 2014 Resolutions.
– Ruth Chigubu is freelance writer and businesswoman based in Harare. She can be reached on ruthchigubu@yahoo.com